I believe the basis of good communication is understanding. Failure to communicate and understand properly is responsible for creating cracks and fissures even in a rock-solid relationship.
No language is perfect. Whenever we talk, opposite meaning can be taken of our words that we never even imagined. It has happened many times with me that someone took wrong meaning of my words or took my words out of the context and it created a rift.
The best way to avoid any such incident is to clarify our understanding. For instance, someone said something to you that hurt your feelings or made you angry etc. Stop right there! Repeat the point to the person who was talking, like: “If I understand correctly, you are saying{…}”
Within the above brackets don’t put his or her words per se but what you understood from those words. In 90% cases, the other person will say he or she didn’t mean that. What he or she really meant will be very different from your understanding.
Always remember to ask “If I understand correctly…” whenever someone’s speech hurts you and #FeelHearty
